|Posted on July 31, 2014 at 1:15 AM|
“Being Authentically YOU”
When we look around society these days, we see few individuals who are authentically being the person God created them to be. We have so many copy cats. And it’s been said that with each additional copy made, a certain amount of resolution is lost. Bluntly stated, we have too many folks mimicking others and not displaying their own authenticity. There’s entirely too much duplication going on. I believe we were born to stand out….to be different. We were born to define our own style, preferences, beauty and life.
t know what you want. You will feel lost, tired and unfulfilled inside. I have found that when most folks are asked a question about who they are, they give off generic answers that everyone is accustomed to hearing. Their answer is very superficial and scripted. But I want to challenge you to BE AUTHENTICALLY YOU! Get off the bus of going along to get along!
• So what does “authentic” mean:? not false or copied; genuine; real; honest
So if you’re not being authentic, you’re being false, copied, not genuine, dishonest or not REAL. You’re a pretender….an actor….a fake. When you’re not authentic, the “real” you can’t come forth because you’re busy being someone else or something fake. If you’re not being authentically you, you’re wasting precious time….you’re wasting time in this life being someone else and not who God designed YOU to be. When you decide to start being who God created you to be, you will find “the real you.” Life will be easier and you will begin to live in greater freedom because you’re no longer “masking” yourself and your true feelings. You will be happier. When you’re not being your authentic self, it’s like living life in bondage because you wake up each day living the life that society, your peers, TV, culture, social media, religious institutions, critics, etc. have said/demanded you should live. And the next thing you know, you’re all dressed up like a mannequin in a department store window playing the role that makes you miserable inside and that’s preventing you from living your true purpose and identity. At this point, you may be wondering how to determine whether or not you’re living an inauthentic life.
Here are the Four Signs of Inauthenticity:
• What is your voice doing? When we’re not being ourselves, we tend to use a high voice. We’re not projecting from our belly and chances are everything below the neck is starved of breath. Are you talking superfast? This is a sign of discomfort.
• What is your body doing? Are you clenching your butt, your hands or your jaw? Our bodies have billions of cells firing at once and those cells can’t be fooled. Tension in your being is picked up instantly by your body.
• Are you breathing? Shallow breathing in the chest area and the belly will not only change your voice, it’s also a signal of fear, nervousness and playing the game of inauthenticity.
• Are you in the present moment or are you being hyper-vigilant? When we’re feeling safe and authentically in the moment, we relax and respond naturally to what’s showing up. When we’re not, we’re hyper-vigilant, watching others for signs that we’re believable, accepted and okay.
5 Ways to Becoming Authentically You:
1. Redefine your values. It’s hard to behave in an authentic way if you do not know what you value and desire. Often, we hold tight to the same values we grew up with, when we need to reevaluate what feels right to us now and align our actions around those things. Get clear on what you care about and authenticity will take hold.
2. Foster an open mind. Authenticity flourishes when we experience the world wholly, from “every” perspective. Rigid, good and/or bad thinking keeps us “trapped in judgment and limitation,” which causes us to shut down our authentic self. Challenge yourself to look at all sides of the situation. Be open.
3. Fill in the blank: If people really knew me they’d know this: ___________. This is a prompt Tony Robbins gives to seminar participants. Not only does it prompt introspection and allow people to reveal essential aspects of themselves, it also builds trust, credibility and confidence with the person you are sharing it with. Authenticity does sometimes feel scary and vulnerable, but it also builds intimacy.
4. Notice when you are being inauthentic. Pay attention to those times when you are insincere in your speech, or when you are acting in a way that doesn’t align with your core values. Then explore the fears and beliefs that may create those barriers to your authenticity.
5. Trust your intuition. Often, we feel out of sync when we are acting inauthentic. Things just don’t feel right. Pay attention to those hunches, physical sensations and impressions. They can be your instincts telling you that you are not being genuine because when you’re on track and authentic, you’ll feel it.
Keeler Bryson is a Teacher, Motivational Conqueror, Author and Entrepreneur. She is the founder of Teachable Life Moments, LLC and Vision Writers Publishing, LLC.