|Posted on April 20, 2015 at 3:15 PM|
Post High School Graduation Tips
As we enter graduation season, I can’t help from thinking back on how excited I was to graduate from high school. I was ready to conquer my future! I had big aspirations and dreams! I didn’t know exactly how I would achieve them in full detail, but I was eager to move in the direction I felt would lead me to them. This meant making decisions that I believed would enable me to achieve my aspirations and dreams. Since my high school graduation, years ago, I’ve made a lot of decisions. Some of those decisions were good and others could have been better, which is why I’m writing this blog. I wanted to share some post graduation advice with high school graduates, in hopes that this advice will give them something to consider, when making decisions today that will impact their future. Here are 7 of my post high school graduation tips:
#1 Don’t take out any student loans for college, if possible. Work part-time and then get on a payment plan to pay for college. Work full-time hours over your Summer break to save tuition money. Seek out and apply for scholarships. You can buy books written by students who paid for their college education with scholarships and had plenty of money left over to purchase condos and/or to start a business. Google it! I know it’s easy to get the student loan, but you’ll regret it later. FIND A WAY to NOT take out student loans. Besides, with the way the job market is right now, you don’t want to risk not being able to find a job after college graduation, but are still required to repay your student loan. You don’t need this type of stress in your life!
#2 Stay with your parents while attending college. Most parents will allow their children to live with them, while they’re in college, without charging them to live there, as long as they pull their weight around the house. Use this time, to save up at least $10,000-$15,000. This way, after you graduate college and move out on your own, you’ll have a strong savings account built. Don’t move out on your own, until you’ve save up the money to purchase your furnishing for your own apartment/home. This will prevent you from being tempted to open charge accounts to pay for these items.
#3 Don’t open any credit card accounts. Anybody who’s been to college knows that this is where credit card companies actively recruit for new, inexperienced credit card users. They make it super easy to get the credit card and they usually give cheap gifts for applying, in an attempt to make their offer a little more attractive. My advice is, DON’T DO IT! FIND A WAY TO PAY CASH! Otherwise, you risk damaging your credit, getting yourself in debt that’s difficult to get out of and not to mention the stress you’ll be having, all at a young age. In addition, many employers do credit checks prior to hiring employees. So if your credit is jacked up, you may not get the job.
#4 Go to college with the ultimate goal of working for yourself. Let’s face it. Most companies are not going to pay you what you need in order to have more money than expenses at the end of the month. Sometimes this happens no matter how hard you work or degrees you have. Most people go to college so they can go work for someone else. My advice is go to college so you can work for yourself. Remember, you’re the CEO of your life. Always think like a BOSS! This way you won’t be at the mercy of a company.
#5 Remember Your “Why”. College is filled with an array of temptations. Many of these temptations are to your detriment, if you yield to them. There will be invitations to wild parties, drugs, sexual escapades, to sell out on your upbringing, etc., but remember “why” you’re going to college. Hopefully it’s to get the knowledge you need to create a productive and prosperous life for yourself, your future family and your community. In other words, stay focused. Don’t be distracted by anything that’s attempting to prevent you from achieving your goals and your purpose.
#6 Keep Your College Experience Away From A Marriage Experience. If you’re in college, then you should be having a great college experience. If you’re married, you should be having a great marriage experience. Don’t make the mistake of trying to be a great college student, that’s experiencing the effects of a bad marriage. Right now, your focus should be “college.” So do college. When you get married, that’s the time to “do marriage.” College is a big responsibility by itself, so don‘t complicate the experience by trying to have a marriage relationship, while in college, with someone you’re not married to. Otherwise, you’ll be stressed to the max about a relationship you’re demanding a marital commitment from, while you’re there, as an unmarried student, in college. This doesn’t make sense. And you don’t have time for this drama!
#7 Listen To Your Heart, Not Your Flesh. When you’re getting ready to make any major decision, always listen to your heart and not your flesh. There are so many voices in the world and as a result, it’s sometimes hard to hear your “heart voice.” Your heart voice is your voice of wisdom and pure intentions. Your flesh voice, on the other hand, is the voice that’s usually based upon immature, impure motives or is based upon what feels good or looks good, as opposed to what actually IS good. In my younger years, I made a lot of decisions based off of what I thought others wanted me to do or said I should do, instead of listening to my own heart voice. Now, I’m not saying that their advice was all bad. It just wasn’t my own decision in many cases. The result of this behavior was that I struggled with having confidence with making my own decisions. It also resulted in me always being concerned with what others thought. But I’m past doing this now. Listening to your own heart is very important in making your own decisions, because sometimes people will project their fears or bad experiences toward you and then, if you’re not careful, you’ll end up making a decision based upon their fear or bad experience and end up somewhere in life you didn’t intend on being. So listen to your own heart! Your decision may not be popular, understood or liked, but at least it was YOUR decision.
Keeler Bryson is a Teacher, Motivational Conqueror, Author and Entrepreneur. She is the founder of Teachable Life Moments, LLC and Vision Writers Publishing, LLC.